Category: Love

We are celebrating the life of two precious ladies today…

Grayce Denton was Tim’s great-aunt. Tim was adopted by his grandparents and raised by them and his grandmother’s two sisters, Grayce being one of them. Tim has said that Grayce was the one he butted heads with the most growing up, but I think that is b/c he might be most like her and she challenged him the most. As an adult, Tim has been closer to her. She was fiesty, loving and funny while I have known her over the past 8 years. She was loved and will be missed. She died at 92 years of age and was fiesty all of the way to the end. Today is her memorial service. Here is a picture of Tim and her a couple of months ago:

Tim and Grayce

Today also just so happens to be the birthday of sweet Daphene, our Compassion International sponsored child. While I cannot post a picture, I can tell you that she is from Haiti and she is a doll. Daphene has now been in our life for a couple of years and she is SO precious to us. Not only are we getting to pour into her life, but she is writing to us, drawing pictures and praying for US. Gosh I love this girl who I have never met. She turns 8 years old today! I hope that she knows she is loved.

If you are interested in learning more about Compassion, click HERE. Not only will you be supporting a child when partnering with Compassion, but you will possibly be saving their life. And YOUR life will be blessed beyond measure I can promise you that.

So, today we are celebrating Grayce and Daphene, both are loved.


A couple of weeks ago I had the honor of coordinating Ethan & Sarah’s wedding. can I just say, this couple, along with their families, are amazing. I have never felt so comfortable and loved during a time where I could potentially be stressed out! They were so great.Β  These people have a special place in my heart after spending many hours with them planning such a great evening. I have seldom met people who love Jesus and love people quite so well.

One of the things I was most excited about while coordinating their wedding was their photographer: Caroline Fontenot. I have seen her work from two or three other weddings in this area, and let me tell ya: the girl has got skillz. She was SO much fun to work with and so laid back. It did not feel like we were working along side one another at the wedding b/c she was SO stress free to work with. She just kind of did her thing, even helped pull other areas together. She (and her second-shooter/hubby, Mark) were awesome to work with. And the outcome: fabulous (read in a singing tune)!

Check it out for yourself and then book her for your next [insert event where you need pictures here].

Here is a link to Ethan & Sarah’s pictures. Enjoy πŸ™‚

I haven’t posted on here in several days because I have been hesitant. Some dear friends recently helped me to realize how much (or little) thought/prayer I put into my words. So, I have felt a resistance to say anything to you for awhile. And I think it is a good thing.

Even though I have felt that resistance, I have also been very eager to say something about Haiti on here. Honestly, I have nothing new to tell you. Nothing you can’t find on FoxNews or CNN (whichever you prefer). So, I won’t say more on what is going on there.

I will tell you that my heart is heavy. I feel overwhelmed with grief for Haiti. And my only real connection is one little girl. I cannot imagine how those who are adopting from Haiti feel with their child still living amongst the suffering, death, tragedy, looting, hunger and so much more.

Please pray. First off, please pray for God to be glorified. I know you may wonder “how He can be glorified through all of this”. I really believe that part of His glory comes from the body of Christ rising up and extravagantly loving the country of Haiti, by HIS power, and not our own.

Pray for the Haitians. Pray for strength, hope, patience, safety, food & water, rescue… Pray for the orphaned. Pray for those who lost everyone and everything. Pray for the volunteers. Pray for the missionaries. Pray for the adoptive families….who knows, you may become one of them soon. Before the earthquake, there were 1.2 Million orphans in Haiti (Haiti is the poorest country in the western hemisphere). I am weary to hear what that number will amount to in the aftermath.

The Livesays write via Facebook, β€œYou are asking what you can do … we are going to need Diesel, Water, Food … things you cannot really easily do.Β  SO – give money.Β  Money is the number one need (and ability to purchase the supplies) and MEDICAL PERSONNEL. Coming down if you are not willing to risk and get in and clean out horrific wounds would just tax an already taxed place. Medical professionals should contact organizations with the ability to coordinate efforts and try to get here. It won’t help to have more non-medical people to feed and house.”

I can tell you that Compassion International is a great way to give. They haveΒ  a disaster relief fund where you can give $35 to help feed a family for a week.

You can purchase a Help Haiti T HERE. 100% of your money goes to Real Hope for Haiti, the Livesay Family & Heartline ministries that are all three on the ground (and have been for years) in Haiti.

What is on your heart and mind right now?

and we’re off…

Tuesday night we (Tim and myself) went to an informational meeting with Bethany Christian Services. I was so excited to go. To be honest, I knew most of the information they told us. I have been doing research on adoption and have followed other people in their journey for nearly two years now. But still, it felt as though it is now official that we are starting the process. Tuesday was not anything that was technically official, but it made it official for me. πŸ™‚

This summer, right after July 17 (that’s my birthday, mark your calendars!), we will submit our preliminary application to Bethany. After that is completed and we are approved past that step, we will receive a packet of info that will tell us everything we need to know to put our dossier (for those not in the adoption world, it is pronounced da-se-ay) together. This will include stuff like our homestudy, fingerprints, psyc evaluation (which is only required by certain countries, the Philippines being one), marriage certificate, reference letters, and much much more. After all of that is complete, we will have to send it off to the Philippines to begin the long wait. From the time ICAB receives our info, as long as everything in the packet is correct, the wait could be between 2 to 3 years. That is a long time, but we are ready for that. Tim says he doesn’t want kids for another 2 to 3 years anyway, so it works out well.

I cannot tell you how excited I am. If you know me, you know I want a baby NOW. I am hurting for a baby in a bad way. Not even lying. But, I can wait a little longer. Now would not be the best timing, I know that. 😦 I will stop pouting now…at least out loud.

For those of you who do not know, these are the specifics of our adoption at this point. Anything and everything could change. This is what we feel led to right now though: Our first (yes, I said first) adoption will be from the Philippines. We will probably apply for a child between 2 to 4 years of age (in the Philippines, the earliest age you can adopt is 2 years, I think). We will not care if it is a boy or girl. At this point we do not want to pursue any type of special needs child. I am not sure if we would be open to a sibling group or not, we have not really talked about that. Right now, that is what I know, which isn’t much. I will be sure to fill you all in as we move along in this crazy journey.

One thing that I know for certain is the cost. My goodness the cost. Up front, we will pay Bethany approx. $7,450. That will be for our homestudy, etc. All together (travel cost, country costs, Bethany costs, etc) the entire thing will be around $25,000. It is a lot of money, but so worth it. And just to make it clear, I do wish it wouldn’t cost so much, but I know that we have to pay these people to do their jobs, and I am okay with that. The people at Bethany are wonderful. I have actually gotten to know some of them pretty well because their office in our city is located in my building πŸ™‚

I have some ideas of how to raise the money, but with any large amount needing to be raised, I worry a lot little about it. I am not a creative person like Lara. I don’t know a ton of people because I am a fabulous blogger like Jamie. I am not good at designing things like Debra. So, I have to find other ways. So far, these are my ideas:

  • Parents’ Night Out: I did this with my church when we were raising money to build the clean water well in Ethiopia. I had so many parents tell me that I should do this once a month. So… as long as my church allows it (I have not even talked to them about this yet), I hope to do just that. The parents bring their kiddos and we watch them for a couple of hours so the grown-ups can go out. We don’t charge, we just accept donations. I figure if we did this once a month it could bring in a good amount.
  • Run a Marathon: I will hate myself for this one. And, me putting this on here will hopefully provide some accountability. I hope to train and run in a marathon and get people to sponsor me. They could sponsor me so much per mile (i.e. $1/mile or $2/mile) or they could just make a donation. I will keep you posted on this too. I will hopefully be choosing a marathon in the next couple of days to be training for. I am not in shape but am not overweight,Β  and am not a runner. So how much time do you think I should give myself to train?
  • We will also probably send out a traditional letter announcing that we are “paper pregnant” and if anyone wants to be a part of bringing Baby Trivette home (I love typing that!), they can send us a donation.
  • I work at an incredible faith-based non-profit called Summit Leadership Foundation. I will hopefully have a couple of coffee/music nights here in the Cafe.

There are a couple of other ideas that I have rolling around in my head that I don’t want to make public just yet. Please be praying for us. I know in my head that this is going to be a long process that will require our utmost dependence on God, but I am not sure my heart knows that just yet. I will for sure keep you all updated. I am just going to be impatient for summer to come. Not because of the warm weather, my anniversary or my birthday, but because that is when we start our journey to our first little one πŸ™‚

And because posts are always more fun with pictures, this is a picture from my last trip to the Philippines:

Yes, that is a banana tree I am carrying. My last trip was a construction and agriculture trip. Here I am carrying the tree to plant it somewhere else πŸ™‚

Happy Birthday Tim!

Yesterday was my man’s birthday. He turned 27 years old. So in light of turning 27, I thought I would list 27 things I love about the love of my life πŸ™‚

1. He loves the Lord and desires to lead me to Him every day.

2. The Lord has used Tim’s love and devotion to heal my wounds from the past.

3. He tells me I am beautiful every day, multiple times a day.

4. His bootie πŸ™‚

5. His devotion and loyalty to his friends.

6. How he hates drama. It balances me out πŸ™‚

7. He plays the drums. Hot!

8. When he thinks something is REALLY funny, he giggles.

9. He knows how to work on cars. I don’t know why I like that, I just do.

10. He is a boxer/wrestler.

11. He keeps me accountable.

12. His principles.

13. He doesn’t care what people think.

14. He only sings for me.

15. He dances with me in the kitchen.

16. He is going to be such a good daddy some day.

17. How he plays with kids.

18. His eyes.

19. His wisdom

20. He desires to learn more each day about me and our marriage.

21. How he has allowed me to bring out the talkative side in him.

22. He will wrestles with me.

23. He is so good with kids (can’t you tell how important this is to me πŸ™‚

24. How good he is at building relationships.

25. His integrity

26. How he shows me grace (in my opinion, that is enough right there!)

27. How he takes care of me.

I love you baby!

Tim and Jess 3

Tim and Jess 2

Tim and Jess


Tim & Jess

Last night I saw the show on MTV “World’s Strictest Parents”. Basically, at the beginning of the show there are two teenagers who are ridiculous with bad behavior. Their parents don’t know how to control them. So they are sent off to spend the week with a family with strict parents.

When they get to the house, really all the parents do is hold high expectations for the kids and they don’t take any of their crap. The parents present house rules to the kids and they stand by them through the show. Two of the families I saw upheld good family values. They were parents that understood their job was not to just be the kids friend, but to guide them.

I thought it was pretty amazing (and sad) that these parents are put into a category that is so extreme, when really they are just fulfilling the duty of a parent. Not only were they strict, but they were loving and still wanted the best for the child.

I don’t really have much to say about it all. I don’t have kids right now and know that it will be very hard to make a choice for my child that makes him/her unhappy for any amount of time. So I won’t judge. But dang.

I also want to encourage strict parents. The world needs strict parents who truly desire the best for their kids.

What about you? Did you have “strict” parents? Did you hate the choices your parents chose for you and now understand them? Tell me about them.

Tim, me, Diana, Necie, Megan & Josh

Tim, me, Diana, Necie, Megan & Josh

This is Tim (my husband), me, Diana (my sister), Necie (my other sister), Megan (Josh’s girlfriend) and Josh (my brother). I love them! We have so much fun together.

All of us

I went to visit the family in Nashville this past weekend. Josh works in construction management in Houston, TX building hospitals. Since he was going to be in, and I hardly ever get to see him (or Megan), I thought Tim and I should go see them and the rest of the family. We have so much fun when we are together.

Also, what you don’t see is my mom taking the picture. There is just a load of hilarity in that itself. She goes to aim the camera, and starts admiring the camera…forgetting about taking the picture. πŸ˜‰

I love my family πŸ™‚

The girls

I frequently refer to them as “the girls”. The two pictured above are my sisters (for those of you who are new to the blog). Man, I love these two.

I got to go visit the family this week. When I visit, I try to soak up as much time with these two as possible. To put it bluntly, I feel like I am missing out on them growing up. It breaks my heart. And, they are at a stage where they both like me. πŸ™‚ This has not always been so, and I imagine will not always be. So, for now, I love on, cuddle with, give praise to and listen to these two as much as I can when I am around.

The one on the left hates to talk on the phone, and the one on the right seems to get embarrassed or too excited to be able to talk on the phone. So person-to-person is the way to go.

They are growing up SO fast. Necie, the one on the right, is in high school! She gets her driver’s permit in like 3-months! Holy cow! Okay, okay, I know I am starting to sound like an annoying parent gushing over her babies. Whatever, I love ’em.

Saturday Mom, the girls and I went shopping at several different stores. Then Tim and I took the girls bowling. It was so much fun. The power went out and we ended up playing games you would play around a camp fire. It was fun just to be with them. And they have a never ending list of things to do when you are bored. It was quite interesting.

Sunday we went to church then came home to have dinner with the whole family. Including Tim (my husband) and Megan (Josh’s girlfriend…Josh is my brother), we had eight people at the table! It was packed, but good times.

We were all coming together to celebrate Megan, Tim and Mom’s birthdays. Megan’s is 10/20, Tim’s 10/28 and Mom’s 11/09. Josh lives in Texas and I live 6 hours away, so we are rarely all together anymore. Next time will be Christmas… I think.

Anyway, that was my weekend.

What about your’s?

They are getting SO close!!

Please be praying for the Ivey’s and the Setliffe’s.

Jamie is in Haiti now with her babies. One of them has received her Visa and the other is waiting to get out of MOI.

The Setliffe‘s have just learned some exciting news about their baby girl’s case.

Go over and show both of them some blog love! And PLEASE be praying for them πŸ™‚

Summer seems to be a difficult time for everyone on keeping up with their blog. Not that anything has changed much with my schedule. I think I am kind of getting into a whole, “do I even want to blog anymore” mood. Sorry, but it is true.

I love to read blogs. But, I don’t ever feel like I have enough going on with me to blog about. Or if I do, I don’t have the energy.

But, for those who might still be reading, here is what is going on with me these days:

  • I have started to learn about the whole world of Coupons from I have read on several other blogs how much they are saving, and I have decided I want in on that too! You should check it out!
  • I start school next Wednesday! Yep, the girl who has wanted out of school most of her life is going back. And get this, I am going back to be a teacher! I am going back to become something that will always keep me in school! My teachers from elementary, middle and high school would be shocked…and confused! I am going through a 16 month program (+ student teaching) that meets once a week, at night. I am excited because everyone I have worked with so far from this school has been fantastic! And I have heard mega good (yeah, I just made that up) things about the school… so it should be great!
  • I have started watching my three most favorite little boys again! I watch Daniel, Nathan and Dalton every Tuesday, and goodness I can’t get enough of those kiddos! πŸ™‚
  • Tim has hurt his back pretty bad. He has been walking around crooked. No really. He told me he feels really gross because his body is doing something that is not natural 😦 So for the past two weeks we have been laying low. I think I have rested just about as much as I can. I am ready to go out and go hiking, or something!
  • We recently rearranged our living room, and I love it! I have randomly stated so many times while just sitting in the living room how much I like it. I used to think the whole deal with energy flowingΒ  b/c of how you arrange your furniture was a bunch of bull. But it makes me so happy how we have it now. Makes me rethink some things πŸ˜‰
  • There is a shortage of good movies lately to rent. I have seen a couple of good movies, but they were at the movie theater. My favorite right now in theaters is probably “The Proposal“. I am a big fan of Sandra Bullock.
  • I really need to start working out. Enough said.
  • I am saddened to read this… praying even harder for them.
  • I am living about 5 hours away from my immediate family. My two sisters go to 8th grade and high school for the first time today. I feel like I am missing out on them growing up. And I really miss my family. Any advice from any one who has married and moved away?

And to end it all, I thought I would post a picture of my two favorite girls (Diana and Necie, my sisters):

Diana and Necie

Diana and Necie